- Attributed to Ayn Rand
I hear a lot of younger people new to the workforce and to relationships speaking in an entirely different way than I grew up with. I hear them speaking from an entire paradigm of someone letting them or stopping them from doing things; accomplishing things; including dating and sex. They think that someone is deciding their fate for them; that there is some force out there that is determining the entire world and everything in it. They talk about relationship in terms of blame and the other person not doing this or that—instead of thinking in terms of them just being people; and everything just happening or not happening and them making it happen or not happen. Everything they say belies this victim mentality. If you listen, you can hear it in everything they say.
These kids I think actually think in terms of some type of over-arching parent-like figure deciding for them—and, implicitly, needing to decide for them. From their girlfriends or boyfriends to their careers to a myriad of problems with the world that someone is doing to them or deciding—instead of a world of opportunity and wonder.
They are very other oriented: other-person oriented. But not in an empathetic way—in a blaming and shaming way; like they are stuck in their terrible twos but have adapted that modus operandi to their adult life. Not like they actually care for others—but want—no require—you to care for them. It is highly psychotic. But it seems to have become the collective unconscious. This victim, perpetrator, rescuer psychosis has become normalized. It seems to be everywhere: from schools to universities to the workplace to relationships to politics.
These young adults actually think in terms of blame of some system or person who has done a number of things to them. Everything they are is in these terms.
Allegedly there is a new spirituality. But it must also be on these terms. So I guess it is a father figure or a husband figure who has done a number of things to them—and that blaming or hurting him must release them from this bondage and give them everything they want—or should I say deserve.
I think it started as a fun or rewarding game. But the older people never told that to the younger people. And the younger people are now mentally ill. And the younger people are now becoming the older people. The teachers and professors and politicians and actors and musicians. And a whole new world has been injection molded. And our world is now severely ailing; perhaps dying. While you are knitting or on the golf course, there is a fire raging over the hill.
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